If you and your sibling want to stop fighting, there are a few strategies you can try before, during, and after a fight.
Fights between siblings are inevitable, even if they can be frustrating.
If you and your sibling want to stop fighting, there are a few strategies you can try before, during, and after a fight. You may be family, but with a little effort, you can get along like friends!
- Put yourself in your brother or sister’s shoes, if they are frustrating you. Before you fight, think about why your sister may be in a bad mood. Ask yourself what you may have done to upset your brother. Maybe their frustrations are unrelated, or maybe you did something to upset them but don’t realize it.
- Talk about what is upsetting you with your sibling. Start a conversation so they understand why you are upset. Always talk nicely and calmly rather than raising your voice. Listen closely to what your sibling has to say. Make sure you let your sibling talk to you about their feelings too.
- Create a system to prevent repeated fights from occurring. Show your brother or sister you love them then after you talk about what is upsetting you, come up with a plan so that you can reduce the number of fights you have. Brainstorm a few healthy solutions, and decide upon a few options with your sibling.
- Pause and relax so you don’t make the fight worse, if they are annoying. Calm yourself down by taking a few deep breaths or counting to 10. This will help you keep your cool. When you start to get defensive, most likely your sibling will too. Take a time-out, relax for a bit, and then come back to the conversation.
- Ignore obnoxious or rude comments to prevent a fight. Siblings bicker, it’s part of the job. But, if your brother says something rude or obnoxious, try to ignore it and let it go. If you fuel his fire, then an argument might spark.
- Apologize to your sibling. It is best to apologize as the fight is happening, though apologize as soon as you can. Rather than lashing back, take responsibility for your behavior and apologize. If you did something wrong, apologize for what you did. If you are not in the wrong, you can still apologize to cool down the situation.
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