Do you want to ensure your teen grows up to become an independent adult?
How To Help A Teen Become Independent?
Here are a few pointers that can help maintain the relationship between independence and safety,
1. Understand He Is Not A Child Anymore
As a parent, you may feel your teenager is still a child, but that does not mean the world will see him as one.
- Tell your teenager that the first step towards becoming independent is to realize that he is not a child anymore. It is wrong for your teen to expect that people will treat him as a child.
- Tell him to start behaving more like a mature adult if he wants people to take him more seriously.
2. Let Your Teen Take Responsibility For His Actions
Teaching the value of responsibility to your teenager is a key step towards helping him become independent.
- Tell your teen that it is always important to take responsibility for one’s actions. People like interacting with those who are responsible and can stand up for themselves.
- Your teen may make mistakes, but tell him it is a natural part of learning and growing up. Ask him to own his mistakes as well as feel happy about anything good he does.
3. Let Your Teen Start Doing Things On His Own
If your teen wants to be independent, there are many or most things he will have to do on his own.
- Tell him he is old enough to take care of certain basic things. Let him help you where he can and do things on his own.
- He can ask for your help, but let him start taking the initiative.
4. Ask Your Teen To Prioritize Well
As an independent person, your teen should be able to know what is important and in what order.
- Tell your teen that he has to make a distinction between tasks that are of priority and those that he can do during his free time.
- Your teen should understand that, even though, some things may seem critical, they can be put off for later. On the other hand, he may postpone the completion of a few crucial tasks.
5. Respect Your Teen’s Emotions And Needs:
Your teen may not be an adult but that does not mean you don’t need to respect him. It is important to remember that during the teenage years, your child will be facing a lot of emotional, physical and psychological turmoil. This means that your teen will be confused, anxious and angry a lot of the time. But this is entirely natural and a part of growing up.
- Respect your teen by hearing him out.
- Let him feel valued by listening to his opinions or asking him about his views on important family matters. You don’t always have to do exactly what he says, but you should definitely give him a chance to share his views too.
- This will also be a good way to show your teen that there may be differing views but there is still a way of reaching a conclusion that can work for all.
- This is also a good way to be interactive with your teen. Your teen will feel respected and loved. This will encourage your teen to speak with you in an honest and fearless way.
6. Your Teen Should Know Whom To Call In Distress
Your teen needs to know about all the help numbers he can call for assistance when he is in danger or needs help.
- Encourage your teen to maintain a small diary with all important numbers jotted down. It is important to keep a directory handy in the case of emergencies.
- Your teen should know where the closest police station and hospital are and how to reach there in an emergency.
How To Do It: Take your teen along to the police station and hospital to know how to contact them for emergency assistance.
Do you have a teen at home? Do share your special parenting tips to ensure teen independence during this phase.
Oliver & Kim