Do you have a sensitive child?
Who is still coming to terms with how to cope with their big emotions?
Our 5 year old boy I believe is the sweetest little boy in town. He is kind, caring and sensitive, which are beautiful traits but are also causing him some strife upon starting school this term.
- Being able to understand these emotions he has is proving challenging and we are experiencing a lot of teary break downs which we haven’t seen before.
- I remember getting told as a kid to get over it or kids hear terms such as harden up, or boys don’t cry.
- This really upsets my heart now I am a mum to a sensitive soul and as I have met men that have been told such things in childhood and through growing up, currently in counselling and relationship courses to try and learn how to share their emotions they have spent their whole lives bottling it up.
I’m on a different bandwagon
I think everyone should be able to express themselves whether man or woman, child or adult. I certainly don’t want my sweet boy to think his emotions don’t matter that the things that upset him aren’t important although they may be small to us they are obviously important to him at this stage in his life so I will dam well be there to support him through it.
Don’t get me wrong some days I want to scream when the whinging starts, some days the smallest things can burst him into tears usually towards the end of he school week it escalates but when you get to the root of it he’s 5 and literally started his version of full time work… how do you feel at the end of the week? He is not used to the long hour grind and as he becomes more tired is having to adapt and manage his feelings and tiredness… but HE IS LEARNING TO ADAPT in a safe environment without judgement.
We are exploring some concepts in our house at the moment such as:
Finding an outlet for emotions:-
- Sensitive children thrive when they can feel safe expressing their feelings.
- Helping them to verbally express what they feel in an open and respectful manner at home teaches essential life skills.
- Appropriate physical outlets also help, like engaging in exercise, listening to calming music, going for a bike ride or Kaz’s favorite listening to the crashing waves at the beach.
- Creating an environment where sad feelings are acceptable and tears are never ridiculed is also essential for emotional safety.
Exploring healthy tools for managing emotions:-
Learning when, where, and how to express frustration, anger, and sadness is a valuable life lesson. Sensitive children can often feel overwhelmed by their emotions when they lack the skills for controlling these feelings or calming themselves.
You can teach your child how to relax, and use comforting and healthy distractions when upset. Deep breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, and calming music are can be useful to help calm them when in a state of distress. We also find walks together a beautiful way to calm both of our emotions during challenging moments and some one on one time with one of us always helps soothe his little overworked soul.
Taking in the calming air at Papamoa Hills