Throughout our evolutionary history, the ability to make friends has been a crucial survival skill.

make friends?
How to make friends?   Watch Our Video

Here are some research-based tips to help kids make friends.

Teach kids how to converse in a polite way

  • Kids improve their status with peers after they’ve been trained in “active listening” (e.g., Bierman 1986). An active listener is someone who makes it clear he is paying attention–by making appropriate eye contact, orienting the body in the direction of the speaker, remaining quiet, and making relevant verbal responses.
  • Don’t be a conversation hog. When engaged in conversation, only answer the question at hand. Then give your partner a chance to talk, or ask a question of your own. Don’t be an interviewer. Don’t just ask questions. Offer information about yourself.
  • For kids struggling to make friends, avoid competitive games and other situations that can provoke conflict or discourage cooperation

Coach kids on how to cope with tricky social situations.

  • Before making your approach, watch what the other kids are doing. What can you do to fit in?
  • Try joining the game by doing something relevant. For example, if kids are playing a restaurant game, see if you can become a new customer.
  • Don’t be disruptive or critical or try to change the game.
  • If the other kids don’t want you to join in, don’t try to force it. Just back off and find something else to do.
to make Friends
Help your Kid to make Friends  See What Wikipedia Has To Say      #FamilyInMotion

When possible, help kids to work things out on their own

  • Young toddlers need to be closely supervised. But as kids get older, parents need to back off. Parents who hover over their kids are robbing them of the chance to develop their own social skills

Be aware of cultural differences

  • Reciprocity isn’t just a human universal. It has been observed in nonhuman primate relationships. And I’d expect most people to agree that irritable, disruptive, domineering, dishonest or selfish people aren’t desirable as friends. It’s also safe to say that kindness, helpfulness, sympathy, and loyalty are valued everywhere.
  • A study of six cultures found that kids in Kenya, Mexico, and the Philippines spent significantly more time doing kindnesses for others than did kids in Japan, India or the United States
  • Suppose your friend flunked a math test, whereas you got an A+. Should you tell her about your success? In a recent cross-cultural study, American school kids said that doing so would seem like boasting. But Chinese school children viewed the matter differently. To them, sharing information about success with an unsuccessful friend would send the message “I can help you do better”

Please tell us what your view is

Oliver & Kim

Thanks for your visit. We would be delighted if we could give you a #greatdiscount when you purchase from www.pickci.org. Code: Familyinmotion

banner

9 COMMENTS

  1. Sommeone neceѕsarily һelp tߋ mаke seriokusly posts Ι woսld ѕtate.
    Thhat is thhe ѵery first time I frequented yߋur web ⲣage and
    thսs fаr? I surprised witһ the гesearch you made tо make this actual pkst incredible.
    Wonderful job!

  2. I needed to thank you for this very good read!! I absolutely enjoyed every little bit of it.
    I have you saved as a favorite to check out new things you post…

  3. Link exchange is nothing else except it is simply placing the
    other person’s web site link on your page at proper place and other person will also do same in support of you.

  4. You’re so awesome! I do not believe I have read through
    anything like that before. So good to discover another person with some unique thoughts on this issue.
    Seriously.. thank you for starting this up. This web site
    is one thing that is required on the web, someone with
    a little originality!

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here