Steering kids away from behavior problems and toward making better choices in the future.
Remember to balance consequences with incentives, or rewards.
Just as there should be consequences for bad behavior, there should also be a list of rewards for good or improved behavior.
What to Put on a Consequences List
- No play dates with friends. School-age kids are developing more social skills, and are increasingly spending more time being with peers and making friends. They love play dates, and hate the idea of anything cutting down the amount of time they have to spend with friends.
- No screen time. Reducing screen time is something we should all be doing (parents and kids alike). From grubbing (staring at phone screens instead of fully being with the people we love) to binge-watching TV to compulsively checking email or social media posts, both adults and kids need to cut down the amount of time we spend staring at devices.
- Extra chores. Doing chores should be part of every child’s routine. Chores teach kids responsibility and give them a sense of accomplishment, among other benefits.
- Loss of privilege. What that privilege is will depend on your family. Your child may lose his turn to choose what your family will have for dinner, or what board game you will play on family game night.
- No access to a favorite toy or activity. Your child may love Lego or Mine craft or making Rainbow Loom bracelets. The threat of having the thing he or she loves most right now in time out can be a power motivator to steer your child toward good behavior.
What are your measures to steer your child? Please tell us.
Oliver & Kim